Should you choose to parent, you are taking on a huge responsibility that will affect you for the rest of your life. While the general rule of thumb is that parenting means committing yourself to a child for the next 18 years, parenting is forever. There are some questions you may want to consider when you are determining if you want to parent.
Are you ready to parent?
Parenting requires financial, emotional and physical stability. It also requires a solid support system. Parenting is a full-time job. You will need to be emotionally and physically present for your child. That means attending to their every need. Supporting them when they are sick, injured or upset. Sacrificing sleep and your own well-being to care for them at all hours of the day.
Can I provide what is needed to my child?
There is no question that you love your baby, and you want to make sure that he or she has the best possible upbringing. You may be able to parent your child, but you might be concerned that he or she won’t grow up with the kind of life you would want for some of these reasons:
- Home environment
- Two-parent household
- Time to devote to your child
Do I want to parent?
Sometimes, women facing an unplanned pregnancy simply know that it is not the right time for them to be a parent – in fact, they may never see themselves as being parents. But if you feel this way, you may be wondering: is this enough of a reason to choose adoption?
If you do not see yourself as a parent, then that is more than enough reason to explore your other options. Whatever your reasons are and whatever stage of life you are in, you do not have to parent before you are ready, and you always have other options.
If you are still unsure about which option is best for you and your child, do not hesitate to reach out to a pregnancy support worker. We are here to support you during this confusing time.