Questions for Adoptive Couples

Some birthparents choose to meet the prospective adoptive family or families in creating their adoption plan. The following are sample questions and ideas you may want to think about to help you decide if the family is good fit for your child.

  • Why are you choosing to adopt a child?
  • When did you know you wanted to adopt?
  • Do you have any other children? How many do you plan to have?
  • Do you have any previous experience with children?
  • How long have you been married?
  • How much openness does the family want?
  • What types of contact does the family want to maintain with the birthparents?
  • What do they do for a living?
  • Would one parent stay at home or would daycare be needed?
  • What is their home like?
  • Do they live in a big city or rural area?
  • What religion are they?
  • What are their ages?
  • What are their personalities and interests like?
  • Are they healthy? Are they diagnosed with any physical or mental disabilities/illnesses?
  • What is their extended family like?  Do they support the adoption?
  • Who do they count on for support?
  • Questions about their picture book  you may have
  • What things do they do for fun?
  • What are your views on parenting/discipline?
  • Do they have any pets?
  • Do they have a history of drug/alcohol abuse?
  • How do they feel about biological grandparents or other relatives having contact with the child?
  • How would they describe their personalities?
  • Do you have any family traditions?
  • Are they financially stable?
  • What are their thoughts on circumcision?
  • What type of school would the child attend?

Other questions not listed above that you want to ask a family: